What is love to me? - A Poem

What is love to me?




But a simple smile that lights up your day?



That feeling of butterflies when they are on your mind?



The glow that touches your skin after loves sweet kiss?



What is love to me, but a simple need, not a want, but a need, like water, food, and air to breathe,



What is love to me, but a simple laugh that triples and tickles down your back?



A simple hug in the middle of the night, just to let you know that everything is going to be alright.



What is love to me, but a pain that only they can take away when your eyes take sight of them after a long hard day.



What is love to me but the meeting of two souls, the meeting of two halves, to make you feel whole.



What is love to me, me being the yin, and you being my yang.



What is love to me…nothing hard, something oh so simple



Love to me is loves first touch, loves first kiss, loves first voice, and loves first miss.



Loves tear of happiness, loves tears of joy, loves laughter, and loves smile.



Love is what you see when you look into my eyes, feel deep into my soul.



Love to me is….YOU

Skin - A poem

Patiently I wait

With moist lips

Just longing

To taste you



My hands stroking

Gently caressing



Standing naked

No shame

Held tight

In your arms



Moving my lips

Exporing your skin



Nibble your ears

Lick your neck



Feed my hunger

Give me more

Running my nails

Down your chest



Bending my knees

Lowering to the ground

I see my prize



Open my mouth

Swallow my gift



The taste divine

Oh so sweet



Always craving

Always hungry

Never full



Begin to tremble

You're losing control

You can hold it no more



Your hands holding my head

Calling my name

Your breath caught



Touch, me again, and dont ever stop.

I want you,

I love the feel and taste of you

Relationships Part 3: Trust

Trust  is a crucial factor, a main pillar in any relationship. Many relationships have broken up over trust issues. Once broken, trust is very difficult to repair and rebuild, so it has to be guarded carefully and constantly nurtured. Trust requires the right conditions and environment to sustain a relationship through highs and lows. If partners trust each other in a relationship, there is no guarantee that it will continue to stay that way. You can never trust enough, nor can you take it for granted. You have to constantly build on it.
However you can not expect a relationship to be long and satisfactory without trust. Any relationship has to understand that you are trusting yourself to this person, giving them them the ABILITY to hurt you, but trusting that they wont.

Trust grows over time. People are complex, broken beings therefore, previous hurts, fears or losses can impede their determination to trust and/or be truthful in a relationship. But, people have the capacity and the ability to change and to grow in trust and truthfulness. Now many trust issues in a relationship stem from a previous relationship in which a person was hurt. Alot of times people foreget that trust needs to be combined with a willingness to forgive and grows best in an environment of acceptance and love. Which means you can expect to have a healthy relationship if you are bringing issues from the previous one.

Example: My previous relationship with my ex boyfriend, he was damaged, well thats saying it nicely, but he came to me damaged, now being how I am, Im a patient person, and so I was like okay, we can work with this, he just needs time to deal with some of these underlying issues. Little did I know until later that, those underlying issues would cause MAJOR issues within our relationship because he had not gotten over his trust issues. Every time we got into it, or something happened that "reminded him of his ex" it was a huge battle and the steady mantra became "Im not going to be done like that again." Mind you it was over basic things like if I missed a call, didnt return a text back soon enough. It got to the point that I had to tell him "Hey Im about to take a shower so if I dont answer my phone thats why" All because of his trust issues. I mean, how can you be in a relationship with someone and you are steadily mistrusting them? Despite everything I did he still didnt trust me. He would say "I dont like when you do this it reminds me of my ex" So I would make sure not to do it, but it was always something else. In the end it completely ruined our relationship.

Now Im not going to let that previous experience ruin anything I have in the future but I did teach me how important trust is, without trust you have nothing, because it can take even the most minute of issues and turn them into huge problems with devestating effects. Mistrust breeds: Jealousy, regret, anger, heartache, resentment, so many negative emotions that can eventually eat you up as well as your relationship.

I personally wouldnt enter into a relationship with someone whom I feel cant trust. Now, trust is also in the eye of the beholder. Now if weve entered into the relationship with honesty even with the negative aspects, we have something to build upon. Trust is a 2-way street. Each person in a relationship needs to be investing in a relationship in order to build trust. In relationships we steady look for reasons to mistrust someone instead of asking the question...why am I so worried? If everytime your partner is out with friends, doesnt return a text quickly, or if there are people of the opposite sex that you dont know around them, why is youre first reaction to get upset, or suspect? What are your reasons for feeling this way? Sometimes you have to sit back and figure out what is it that is causing my mistrust? Because if this person is doing something that causing reasonable doubt in your relationship, then perhaps its not meant for you to be in a relationship with this person.
I said it before, and Ill say it again, you cannot be in a relationship with someone you dont trust, its pointless. A relationship without trust is pointless and doomed to fail.


Now I know some people are not trustworthy and not be able to build a healthy relationship.  No matter how you might trust in a relationship if that other person is not willing to make the same investment that you are. That doesnt mean that all people cant be trusted, and the next person is going to be untrustworthy. Realize every relationship is as different as the people embarking upon them.

Relationships Part 2: Why Are You Trying to Change Me?

So theres this need inside people for some ODD reason to always try and "fix" people or "change people for the better" Like if you meet someone who is lets say broken from a previous relationship we like to be the ones to try and fix them up, make everything better. The catch is when we dont get the results that we want, we get mad. When you enter into a relationship you must realize that a person is who they are, you shouldnt look at them like a broke toy and say Im going to fix this up, and get mad when the polish doesnt shine like you feel it should. Like women, if you know a guy is a cheat, but you feel "you can change him" and then find your self hurt because he didnt change? Why are you mad, you knew how he was when you got with him. Or Men, she has three different baby daddys and yet shes different with you? WRONG, then you find yourself on the receiving end of paternity test because your dark skinned and that baby is light with green eyes.
I have a friend, she talks this guy, and hes popular, well liked with the ladies, and hes a flirt, ect. And she cant stand it. Something about seeing other chicks on her man that she cant deal with, DESPITE the fact that its just flirtations, smile a dance, ect. But yet she sits there mugging everyone, attitude just pouring from her body. Do you think thats cute? Im like dude, you came with this dude, youre going to leave with this dude, what the hell are you tripping off of? Ladies, realize you make yourself look bad. And its embaressing to yourself. Like what are you jealous of...? Do you think one of those females can take youre place that easily from simple flirtation. I  mean if youre doing your job, then you shouldnt have anything to worry about, but then you start a stupid fight with him, simply because he was what...being himself. Which you knew was the case when you started talking to him, but what, you thought you could change him? Make him and mold him into what you want him to be?



A main reason me and my ex didnt work out is because he couldnt except me for the person that I was. He was continually telling me everything that I was doing wrong, it seemed like nothing I could do was right. I clubbed to much, I focused more on my modeling than him, I didnt come see him enough, I didnt call him enough, why wasnt I answering my phone, why did I have to wk so late, why is it when we go somewhere guys always have to stare, ect. I mean damn, he knew I was outgoing and nice, and had dreams when we first started talked then all of sudden were together and everything I do, who I am is wrong? NO SIREE BOB!
 Realize that the age old saying is true "You cant change someone unless they want to change themselves"
You have to realize that for any type of a relationship to work there has to be an understanding. You have to know someone for who they are, and except them for it, flaws and all. If you see the girl is always starting drama, HINT HINT, she is drama. You think youre going to make things different fellas? Nope. If she cant act right in public when you met her, then hey, what makes you think shes going to act right now?
Many times when a realtionship starts to turn south people start thinking If only you could change your them you think, your relationship would improve and the problems would vanish. WRONG.

My friends you need to start doing these basic things

1. See your partner for who they are,  not through a filter of your creation. If you've always thought that they were just this charming, attractive or seductive person and they fails to meet that standard, you must let go of your illusions. Youre with a imperfect person, not superwoman/man. Everyone has flaws.

2. Take ownership of YOUR feelings. Rather than constantly criticizing them for a fault, consider whether your criticism may be an attempt to hide a problem of your own.

3.Who the hell likes being nagged or hearing constantly that they need to change? Being too vocal and adament about changing someone will most likely cause that person to rebel, or even leave the realtionship. Realize that if someone is behaving or living their lives in a way that annoys you, it's not going to work out — whether you try to change them or not.

4. If you're trying to change someone, you are indirectly telling them that you don't love/like them the way they are. You are in love/like with the person you are trying to turn them into

5. Most important of all. They'll Change for You When They're Ready. If a person truly cares about you, and they see that something they are doing is bothering you, hurting you, or damaging the relationship, they will do something about it. You dont have to make it your mission to change that person.
There are very few people in someones life that a person will allow to change them: close friends and family. They've earned the right to ask them to change or to tell them that they are doing something the wrong way. After youve dated someone for a long time, you'll eventually have that right too.

You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to be in a good relationship. If your happiness depends in part on changing your partner, know that change is possible, but only if you are in a deeply committed relationship or marriage, AND if that person is willing to change. Dont venture into the relationship with the intent to change someone, know that changing your partner will cost you dearly, and if you want the change, be prepared to pay the cost.