So, I come from a very unconventionally OPEN and HONEST family. And throughout my entire teenage years I had my aunt and my cousin tell me some real relationship facts. For example, you cant wake up next to ugly. Meaning, you cant wake up everyday next to someone you arent attracted to. Now that doesnt mean just looks it means the whole package, a person can be bad as hell and a straight WITCH! But one of the major fundementals I was taught was about sex. Sex is a serious foundation in a relationship, probably akin to about 50%, simply because, we as humas are sexual beings, and you want at least that 80% in your relationship. And considering the fact that everyone has their faults emotionally, we usually try and compensate through the physical aspect. And THATS where the cheating comes in. Its usually NOT because they dont care, or dont like you, its usually because they are searching for something thats not there, or something they arent receiving. Thats why you always hear people say "Ladies if you dont suck your mans d*ck, best believe someone else will, and do it WELL" Its not just for kicks, same goes for men, how you gonna say I dont eat the p*ssy, but you want your d*ck sucked....seriously? Or Ladies do, and then be dont nut in my mouth. SERIOUSLY? Or you dont want to be adventurous in bed. You only like certain positions, no role playing, no toys. Come on now. And then your significant other turns to someone else who provides that missing peice, can you say 80/20 rule? They may be getting a good hunk of that 80% from you, but something is just not all the way there. I say this from experience. I am a nympho, period. I like sex, and I love to please my partner, and do new things, so why would I want a borning partner? Do you really think, despite all my like for him, its going to last if Im not being fullfilled in the relationship?? Not that I say cheating is right, I refuse to cheat, if Its not working its not working, let go and move on, sometimes its best to be honest versus being nice.
Men, STROKE GAME is so important, you cant just get in and go, you have to mix it up, have some type of rhythm, and adventure. As good as getting it from the back feels, there are sooooooooooo many other stimulating positions. Im sorry but the same ol same ol gets boring and fast. Not to mention some woman are harder to please because their clitoris is hidden :/ So you have to do a little extra.
Ladies, you can do your part too, do you know the penis has over 4,000 nerves in it? SERIOUSLY! Do you know what you can do with that? I mean during the act of sex you can use that muscle called your vagina and stimulate him by contracting that muscle, do it and see what it does :P
But thats not all. Example, I love to give pleasure baskets :D to my friends, because I know it adds excitement, and a different element to the relationship. Some people use those wonderful books like "365 Sex Positions"
Or "The Book of Kama Sutra" for ideas. Or you can invent some yourself try role playing. Or making "coupons" with things like "Free back massge" but of course you could spice that up with some KY warming sensations massage oil. lol, and take it from there.
Just realize that you have to keep an open mind in our relationships now, we cant be so conservative in the bedroom with our mates. Just give it a try I promise its benificial in more ways than one!
